Today I will be finishing up this topic. In fact I thought I was already done but I came across a YouTube video on pornography and felt the need to address one last point in regards to this problem. First let me say if you are just finding this blog I encourage you to read the other 2 posts in this series first. There are links to part 1 and part 2 at the bottom of the page. Thanks for reading and I always appreciate it when people take the time to read my thoughts. The aforementioned YouTube video was a podcast that i follow titled REinvision Radio. You can check out the full video here. Briefly I will say the podcast is by a rapper turned Christian named No Malice. He was part of the rap group the Clipse, from the early 2000’s and gave his life to Christ at some point after initially being a secular artist. There is a great Netflix documentary on him telling his story called “The End of Malice”. It was this podcast that shined some light on a few things for me in regards to Porn.
We have all heard that over 50 percent of marriages end up failing in divorce, but did you know that within those marriages over 60 percent of them involve Porn usage? I definitely feel like that is a major stat and an astonishingly high number in and of itself. Not to mention that in males, porn watch at some point is well above 90 percent. The other glaring fact that disturbed me is how little that the Church seems to address this issue on the pulpit. I don’t think I have ever heard a message at church where pornography and the ways to deal with it was specifically the topic. Now I am not criticizing the church but I have observed this to be the case in my experience. My only thoughts are that may be people do not think this [porn] is as big of an issue as it is. The spirits involved here is what ultimately has the biggest affect on things in the life of a believer. For me when I was in bondage to porn during my marriage, I was always upset and agitated at the smallest things or for no reason at all. I’m sure some spouses just accept that the husbands watch porn, but deep down how does the woman feel? There is probably a sense of not being enough to satisfy their mate. It isn’t an ideal situation but people do their best to make the marriage work despite pornography being a big problem.
My final thought is how reliable can statistics actually be though? Obviously the numbers get skewed a bit. We can’t really rely on them since each family may have their own dynamic to what is going on. I am just speaking from my own personal experience and I definitely believe being unhappy in one area can magnify other areas. Communication is key, and no one should have to do something they are uncomfortable doing, even if it is in the marriage bed.
In conclusion I want to end by saying it is our responsibility to live a life Holy and acceptable before the Lord. It starts with making a conscious effort and being determined to live righteously and do everything you can to make the marriage work to the best of your ability. If you are a born again Spirit-filled christian, I’ll explain what that means in detail at a later time, sexual sin cannot co-exist with your new nature, it just doesn’t work. If you are not a believer maybe you and your significant other have come to some agreement or may even watch pornography together. I’m not here to judge but as a Christian this blog is primarily aimed at blood bought believers. I pray that if you and your family are struggling, you continue to fight and not lose hope. In Christ you can find all the satisfaction you need and His power will strengthen you as you continue to grow in faith.
-Sym
Here are the other parts in the series in case you missed them :
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